Love

Love isn't just in a romantic sense... Yes it is a huge part of what 'love' is associated with and yes it is a big part of what it is, I'm just saying that people fixate on he romantic sense of love rather than the other versions of it. There's the love of a mother and their child, the love of a programme, the love of an idol, the love of the family, the love of a friend.

The love I'm going to focus on for me is the love of a friend of mine. I have been friends with him since I was 12, not very close friends at first but he soon became my bestfriend (even if I wasn't his) and someone I just trusted. He's been with me through so many things, he has made me smile, made me laugh, made me cry because I was laughing so hard with him, he's seen me do embarrassing stuff as I have with him.

He's been with me all through my darkest times. When I was in hospital he visited me often and rang me up several times a week, trying to make sure that I'm ok. He would listen to me snuffling through the tears and still cheer me up - he supervised me when I had to eat and didn't make judging comments. He even bought me a massive teddy bear just to cheer me up. He's sent me a link to a song called "true colours" when I was particularly depressed. He's seen my scars and been supportive of me. After all of this, he is still my best friend.

Love isn't just in a sexual way. With me and my friend (from my point of view), it's in the way he remembers little things about me that I wouldn't expect, it's in the way he can make me smile even when I feel shit, it's the way he's always been supportive of me and the fact he hasn't given up on me, it's in the way he doesn't judge me, it's in the way I can trust him to not constantly pester me about my problems... Like he focuses on Hayley and not my issues, it's in the way he cares about others, and finally it's in the way that I couldn't imagine him not ever being in my life.

I myself have been focusing on the romantic side of love and how unlucky I am etc etc, but actually thinking about it, I'm one of the luckiest girls for actually adoring my best friend and having such a wonderful one at that. Yes this is a bit soppy, but you focus so much for one thing and you don't really appreciate what good you have in your life.

So this is for you, I am so grateful you're my friend and have been for just over 5 years, words don't describe how much I adore you. Thank you so much xxx